Article in ‘De Telegraaf’

Journalist Pieter Klein Beernink wrote on 13 July 2024 a great article in ‘De Telegraaf‘, a Dutch newspaper. He wrote about our Etiquette Dinner at the Stanhope hotel in Brussels on 27 June. The dinner is a tutorial given by William Hanson of The English Manner and is part of our 3-day Protocol Training programme.

The article is written in Dutch. Find below a translation into English.

 

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DE TELEGRAAF

SATURDAY 13 JULY 2024

Napkin not on backrest!

Who would expect that etiquette of all things could become a Dutch export product? With our direct approach, we are not known as the most courteous people. Yet the whole world wants to learn from Protocolbureau what correct manners are. Jean Paul Wijers, founder of the almost 30-year-old Protocolbureau, organised a multi-day training in Brussels, with speakers such as Tom Devleeschauwer, master of ceremonies at the court of King Philippe.

An unlikely international group showed up. Including two Nigerians, Susana Aires, protocol officer of a Portuguese mayor and Rauana Abdigulova from Kazakhstan. “This course is useful for my work at the Dutch Embassy for Central Asia in Astana,” she noted during the closing dinner in the Stanhope Hotel. “We are increasingly using Western protocol. Here I have learned about the seating of people on official occasions and about the ranking of officials: who comes before whom?” Not only important for a table arrangement, but also for a welcome, or for arranging the order of speakers.

“I would like to become an event manager and then this will come in handy,” said American Christine Barton from Missouri. She was sitting at the table with Yuliya Bitner from Ukraine. “I work for the Danish Business Association in Lviv,” she explained. “Then it is good to know Western ways.” She also has other things on her mind at home: “We rarely fight. But we fear that water and power outages will become even more frequent.”

In the neat Brussels hotel something like this seemed unthinkable.Especially during the dinner where the very British etiquette-famous William Hanson lectured on table manners.“ NEVER leave your napkin on the back of your chair when you get up,” he urged the attentive students. A serious matter, it seemed. “Put the napkin on the seat or the back of the chair if you want to indicate that you are coming back. If you put the napkin on the table, you indicate that you will stay away.” Maybe nice to know. “People hide behind protocol,” grumbled chairman Rogier Elshout. “When I lead a discussion, protocol sometimes gets in the way of a good conversation.”

Hanson threw it up took a different tack when he stood again at dessert:”This is dessert,” he said over a plate of ice cream and bavarois. “But in England we call this course pudding, which it is. Then comes dessert with us and at state banquets it is always fruit.” After some talk about eating a banana with a knife and fork, the Brit arrived at the coffee: “Or tea, of course. Don’t hold your pinky finger up when drinking from a cup. Do you know where it comes from? From the French court. Well, the French in Versailles were of course very intimate with each other during the day and at night,” he continued about that special people on the other side of the North Sea. “If you had syphilis, the dreaded venereal disease, you raised a little finger. If someone else did that too, then there you go! You can’t have it twice, right?” One for the students cheerful conclusion to a few very serious days.

 

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Is society slowly opening up again? Can we carefully organise events again?

Jean Paul Wijers and Bengt-Arne Hulleman of Protocolbureau know for sure: “Yes, we can.” In fact, they already know how to do it. Protocol will help us to realise new corona-proof events.

Small scale only

The pre-corona events with hundreds of invitees are a thing of the past; at least now, perhaps forever. This may be fortunate, because those mass meetings have always been pointless from the perspective of relationship management.

Use the protocol logistics

Directing the logistical movements of people, unnoticed, is one of the basic principles of protocol. Every protocol expert is naturally good at this. Managing the flow of people, both indoors and outdoors, is a daily business if you organise an event based on protocol. You can ensure that not everyone arrives at the same time, for example by dividing the guest list into blocks. Who should arrive first, second and so on? Who can park nearby and who further away? Who should go through the screening and who should not? With the available protocol tools, such issues are easy.

Qualitative meetings are also possible at a distance of two meters

The quality of encounters always depends on the setting in which they can take place. That was difficult at the crowded events of the past. Everyone had to be close to each other to be able to understand each other. Protocol officers created moments of calm by pausing time: in the eye of the storm, where the real meeting could take place.

This peace of mind is the result of small scale of the new events in the coronavirus pandemic era. You can create that peace of mind by means of a protocol-based approach, so that people naturally keep a distance of two meters from each other. Because of this peace of mind, people can see, hear and ‘read’ each other well, so that even an intimate conversation is possible.

More yield, not more expensive

Because we currently do a lot of digital work, live and personal contact no longer seems as necessary. Nothing is less true. Personal contact remains an important basis for doing business. But because we saw how useful digital is during the crisis, the personal meeting becomes more exclusive and therefore more valuable. You think three times before you start a live event and if you do it, you do it well.

Does this make the event more expensive? No, the total costs remain the same, but the costs per head increase because fewer people are invited. However, there is more quality in return. Because you think more carefully about which are the essential relationships and who you should invite, each event will ultimately deliver more in quality.

Interview with Jean Paul Wijers

If Jean Paul Wijers set up his company again tomorrow he would never call it Protocolbureau because of the association of ‘protocol’ with Royalty, formality and many formal rules.

“The truth is however that protocol today has not always to do with formalities.”

This article is written by Carla van Elst (before the start of the Coronavirus pandemic) and was originally published on the website of the Dutch Association for Event Managers, the ‘Genootschap voor Eventmanagers’, and translated into English with the help of William Hanson.

What then is protocol? On the one hand there is the ‘rules side’ of protocol: the rules that create a moment where effective meetings can take place. On the other hand, there is the symbolic side of protocol: symbolism that adds extra value to a meeting. “A good protocol officer is able to stop the time, and create peace of mind for authentic encounters. And they ensure the symbolic value of the meeting is incorporated into the storyline of an event.”

Protocol offers peace of mind

Of course, protocol does have something to do with Royalty. A Royal presence at an event is a good reason to hire Protocolbureau. For example, they take care of all protocol issues or provide the ‘secret protocol’. Jean Paul Wijers: “Often an organisation itself provides the supervision and we are there to ensure that everything around it is properly arranged: everyone is in the room on time, the right seats are free for the VIPs. But if something goes wrong – suppose someone is in the wrong place – we intervene. If all goes perfectly, then no one notices our constant monitoring.”

“When I started Protocolbureau, I never imagined I could turn it into a company that’s been around for 25 years,” says director Jean Paul Wijers. “What I would like to change is the image that people sometimes have of me. They think that I sleep in a three-piece suit and hoist the flag here every morning singing the national anthem! In reality, I am rather progressive and liberal. Anyone who knows me knows that I am not making things overly formal – anything but!”

Another good reason to call in Protocolbureau is the presence of VIPs at a meeting. What to do in case of many no-shows and the seating has to be changed at the very last moment? “Many organisations think they can manage that very well themselves, until things go terribly wrong.” Of course, the services of Protocolbureau include much more than assistance with Royalty and VIP receptions. In addition to the special seating programme Protocolbureau has developed, the Bureau offers protocol staff at all levels. They can also tell you everything about titles, how to write a letter to the King or how to open a speech. “We offer a full-service product and really go all the way for our clients. But our most important selling point is peace of mind. We are the guarantee that it will all be fine – more than fine!”

One of the important trends in the event business – now and in the future – is that we no longer want to rush somewhere in total stress due to heavy traffic or, when we arrive somewhere, be in a crowded room, with loud music, where you can’t speak to anyone, to then find out that there is no one interesting you would like to meet.

Jean Paul Wijers with Nicky Redmond, the (former) Global Conference Director of The Union World Conference on Lung Health, and the police protocol military band in Hyderabad, India (2019).
Jean Paul Wijers with Nicky Redmond, the (former) Global Conference Director of The Union World Conference on Lung Health, and the police protocol military band in Hyderabad, India (2019).

Protocol to bring people together

Protocolbureau was established in 1996, shortly after Jean Paul Wijers graduated from the Hotelschool The Hague university. “At the time, I was surprised that protocol at the Hotelschool was not taught as a subject. People thought that protocol had nothing to do with hospitality, while I saw it as a wonderful tool to bring the right people together during the hectic pace of a meeting. It was an innovative and progressive idea, which I already had as a student, and which is still the basis for what we do at Protocolbureau.” Sadly, in recent years, people’s opinions about protocol have changed quite a bit and the anti-protocol attitude has become more prominent. “You have to ask yourself: what is protocol still worth, under those circumstances? We wanted to highlight that. Which was always the intention from the beginning, but now we were forced to give a good answer to that challenge.”

The answer is that the time of unnecessary formalities and ‘protocol fetishists’ is really over. But also that protocol is, at the same time, more relevant than ever, which has everything to do with today’s hectic pace. “One of the important trends in the event business – now and in the future – is that we no longer want to rush somewhere in total stress due to heavy traffic or, when we arrive somewhere, be in a crowded room, with loud music, where you can’t speak to anyone, to then find out that there is no one interesting you would like to meet. That is why I think the work of protocol officers is very important and will become even more important.”

This is a time when many people are worried about where we are going, and about the decline of norms and values. Protocol really has something to offer, because it gives meaning.

Jean Paul Wijers in Berlin for a lecture at the Stadtmuseum (2019).
Jean Paul Wijers in Berlin for a lecture at the Stadtmuseum (2019).

A personal fight

Jean Paul Wijers describes the changing views on protocol and its consequences as “one of the most difficult things I have had to deal with in recent years”. He had to fight a personal battle on two fronts. First against hardcore protocol fetishists, who dismissed him as unprofessional and someone who doesn’t understand. Secondly, with those who saw no difference between him and protocol fetishists, who therefore had no eye for his new vision of more classic protocol. This ‘new’ protocol, as said, is about the rules that create the space for authentic meetings, attention to the symbolism of meetings, and also about the value protocol can add in our modern times. “This is a time when many people are worried. About where we are going, about the decline of norms and values. Protocol really has something to offer, because it gives meaning. Many people call giving meaning one of the most important things in their lives. That was, and still is, one of my motives. I have always had an aversion to the meaningless, materialistic, pompous protocol, which was primarily based on ego and power. For a long time I have searched for a purer interpretation of it and in the end I found the answer in ‘giving meaning’. I have had this vision since my days as a student, but it was twenty years later until I could tell my story. ”

Constantly working on innovation

The developments of recent years are the reason why ‘renewal’ is now an important business characteristic of Protocolbureau. “In an industry where by definition nobody is involved with innovation, I am constantly busy with innovation. We often speak of ‘modern’ protocol, but there is no new protocol – it is still the same. Only its application is different, where context and, in particular, the importance of relationships are at the forefront. You must translate protocol in regard to the context, so it can therefore always be slightly different. Protocol fetishists do not do that, they simply apply the same rules every time, in the same way. But you do see our King Willem-Alexander doing this, looking at the big picture, wondering: why are we doing this and which rule of protocol helps me with that?”

This desire for innovation also led to the establishment of a second company in 2009: the Institute of Strategic Relationship Management (ISRM). This made it clear once and for all that protocol is the key and building strong relationships the ultimate goal. Since its foundation, ISRM has been providing training, advice and postgraduate courses, as well as publishing books on the subject.

Bengt-Arne Hulleman

A second director

Many event managers mainly know Protocolbureau from the dozens of ushers they encounter at the INSPIRE event [the yearly networking event of the Dutch Association for Event Managers, the ‘Genootschap voor Eventmanagers‘] or hire for their own events. Jean Paul Wijers is, to a large extent, the ‘face’ of the company. This is changing. With the appointment in October 2019 of Bengt-Arne Hulleman, former head of protocol at the International Criminal Court, Protocolbureau was given two-man management. “Before that, I was the only one responsible for the management. That makes you vulnerable as a company and it is also difficult to grow. That’s why I immediately changed my approach when setting up the ISRM. That it can work without me, the company – with 20 to 30 part-time teachers – is much more standardised.” Bengt- Arne Hulleman is also going to contribute to the protocol training Protocolbureau provides, in the Netherlands and abroad. “I once thought about a second location in Brussels, but I don’t think that is necessary anymore. Brussels has already become a fixed market for us, we give a multi-day training there, twice a year. Pleasingly, Protocolbureau is successful abroad, for example we also provide training in Doha, Tallinn, Frankfurt and Windhoek. It is funny to think that that success also comes from the fact that we in the Netherlands were forced to think about the usefulness of protocol!”

Event = meeting people

Jean Paul Wijers points out that in the event industry, events are now mainly seen as live communication. He wonders if that does not give the relational aspect of an event too little attention. “I see the event as a meeting between people. That is by far the number 1. Of course, content must always be communicated, but research shows that people often forget the communicative message within two weeks, while remembering for years who they met.”